108 Toxic Family Quotes

Sometimes even the ones we love can become toxic. Our relationships with toxic family members can be damaging if not taken care of.

This can be a painful experience. You always expect family to support and lift you up, but sometimes they are the ones to bring you down.

In this article, we’ve shared a list of toxic family quotes to help you heal and let go of the pain.

Let’s get started.

Toxic Family Quotes to Help You Process Your Trauma

1.) “Some people play victims of crimes they committed.”

2.) “You’ve been lied to so many times that you know who not to trust. That’s not trust issues; that’s lessons learned.”

3. “Without communication, there is no relationship.
And without respect, there is no love.

4.) “Just because someone gives you life doesn’t mean they will love you the right way.”

5.) “Your heart knows when you have given too many chances.
Your heart knows when you have given too many chances.”

6.) “Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place we find the deepest heartache.”

7.) “It’s not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.”

8.) “Words don’t cover up toxic parenting.”

9.) “No matter what you’ve suffered, the abuse was not your fault. Not as an innocent child, teenager, nor as an adult.”

10.) “A child should never feel as if they need to earn a mother’s love.”

11.) “Toxic parents care more about how you make them look than how you actually feel.”

12.) “How to tell if someone is not good for you?
You being yourself feels like a betrayal.”

13.) “Because I love you” is not the reason for manipulation or abuse.”

14.) “A toxic mother talks but never listens, and she gives advice but never takes any.”

15.) “Sometimes you need to give up on people, not because you don’t care, but because they don’t.”

16.) “You can’t change someone who can’t see an issue in their actions.”

17.) “The only way to win in a toxic relationship is to leave.”

18.) “You are allowed to walk away from people that constantly hurt you. Let’s get out of the habit of telling people. Toxic is toxic.”

19.) “You can miss a person every day and still be glad that they are no longer in your life.”

20.) “Ask yourself, “will you do this to your family?” If not, why let them do this to you?”

21.) “If your family doesn’t treat you the right way, make sure you do.”

22.) “Leave when you need to. In 10 years, you will look back and realize it’s the best decision ever.”

23.) “Love yourself enough to walk away from your toxic family’s lies and dramas.”

24.) “You don’t heal in a home where you get hurt.”

25.) “Things only get better when you cut off toxic family members.”

26.) “When you don’t come from a healthy family, you do your best to ensure a healthy one comes from you.”

Toxic Family Quotes to Help You Escape Emotional Abuse

27.) “A toxic family is one where your family members don’t respect your boundaries. Toxic family members create an unhealthy family situation based on betrayal, rejection, cheating, drama, and selfishness.”

28.) “When you have an unsupportive family, you are hurt deep down in your heart and feel very disappointed. But when your blood relations get really poisonous and toxic then you should let go and walk away for your peace of mind.”

29.) “The only way to win in a toxic relationship is to leave.”

30.) “The only way to win with a toxic person is not to play.”

31.) “When people treat you like they don’t care, believe them.”

32.) “Even those we love the most can be a poison to our souls.”

33.) “Love yourself enough to walk away from lies and dramas.”

34.) “I was born into this family and all I got was a bad attitude.”

35.) “If your family doesn’t treat you the right way, make sure you do.”

36.) “The best revenge against toxic family members is not fighting back.”

37.) “The scapegoat is the mentally healthiest member of the toxic family.”

38.) “When you say “No” to a toxic family, you say “Yes” to loving yourself.”

39.) “A family that treats you like an enemy is no family to be proud of at all.”

40.) “A toxic family is even worst than a toxic relationship.”

41.) “It’s so sad that even people closely related by blood can betray each other.”

42.) “It’s sad how I can trust teachers more than my parents.” – Dawn Andrews

43.) “Some of the most poisonous people come disguised as friends and family.”

44.) “Tragically, your worst enemies will always come from your own household.”

45.) “You may be my family but I won’t let you get away with your toxic behavior.”

46.) “The people I looked up to for comfort are the ones who make me depressed.”

47.) “Not everyone deserves full access to you that included toxic family members.”

48.) “Blood relations cease to have their use if people related by it behave otherwise.”

49.) “Fake family is like shadows they follow you in the sun but leave you in the dark.”

50.) “Ask yourself, “will you do this to your family?” If not, why let them do this to you?”

51.) “Cutting people out of my life doesn’t mean I hate them. It means I respect myself.”

52.) “Just because someone gives you life doesn’t mean they will love you the right way.”

53.) “I do not hate my toxic family members. I also do not need them.” – Sherrie Campbell

54.) “All I wanted from you was love and acceptance but all I was given hate and rejection.”

55.) “Families get dysfunctional if they are built of a faulty foundation of hate and resentment.”

56.) “Learn to cut your losses fast if you realize you are just being used for their selfish motives.”

57.) “If all they bring into your life is pain and misery, you need to start cutting your losses fast.”

58.) “And a person’s enemies are sometimes those of his own household.”
“Too much fighting and drama in a place where love, peace and harmony must be the norm.”

59.) “Just because they are your family doesn’t mean that they are your friends.” – Beverly Miller

60.) “When you walk away from a toxic family, you begin the journey of finding your true people.”

61.) “It’s okay to cut toxic family members out of your life. Blood ain’t thicker than peace of mind.”

62.) “Leave when you need to. In 10 years, you will look back and realize it’s the best decision ever.”

63.) “You don’t get to choose your family, but you do get to choose how they’re allowed to treat you.”

64.) “I wonder why I feel I am treated like an enemy in a place where I am supposed to be welcome.”

65.) “A dysfunctional family is not a family at all, it’s a toxic relationship parading as a requirement.”

66.) “Just because they are your family doesn’t mean that they know what’s best for you or your life.”

67.) “How can you say you are my family when all you did is malign me as if I am your worst enemy.”

68.) “The black sheep blazes the trail for other family members to follow when they finally see the wolf.”

69.) “It’s so disheartening to see people who are supposed to love you use you for their selfish purposes.”

70.) “You may feel guilty for leaving your family behind, but you’ll never regret moving forward.”

Toxic Family Quotes to Help You Heal

71.) “How you choose to feel today should not be dependent on others.”

72.) “My friend, you are not alone. No matter what you’ve suffered, the abuse was not your fault. You didn’t cause someone to hurt you. Not as an innocent child, teenager, nor as an adult. Let that sink in. It’s not your fault.”

73.) “If the family you chose before your birth no longer supports your path towards fulfilling your true destiny, it is never too late to find a new tribe.”

74.) “We arrive and depart this life alone. Every moment in-between is a unique opportunity to experience as much love and belonging as we can possibly muster. Instead we obsess over petty differences and turn our backs on those we are supposed to love.”

75.) “There is healing in exposing family abuse. And there is healing in knowing you are not to blame.”

76.) “Do not be waylaid by a toxic family Whatsapp group. You fought hard to emerge as your own person in real life. Do not succumb to this new medium that replicates all the sad, toxic hierarchies of broken families. Walkout. Do it now.”

77.) “The most vindictive pathological abusers in families, carry the rage-filled energy from every wrong, or perceived injustice they ever experienced, deep inside themselves, awaiting a final vindication.”

78.) “Ending the toxic cycle within your life isn’t easy. When you don’t come from a healthy family, you do your best to ensure a healthy one comes from you.”

79.) “It’s perplexing how family members claim their undying love for us. They can say whatever they choose, but their actions and behaviors don’t match their words. There is an imbalance in the relationships with distinct discrepancies, especially in who overpowers the scapegoat.”

80.) “What the toxic family unit has lost sight of is the positive traits of the innocent person who was manipulated into being the scapegoat. The scapegoat can feel the acute injustice that leaves a psychological scar. Although nobody would willingly choose to be a scapegoat, this person has countless wonderful strengths, characteristics, and accomplishments.”

Quotes About Toxic Family Members

81.) “If you can stand up to your family, you can stand up to anyone.”

82.) “You can’t change someone who can’t see an issue in their actions.”

83.) “Parent-child relationships aren’t created at birth, they’re created in life.”

84.) “Every person is built like a computer, and the delete key is there for a reason.”

85.) “Family or not I will cut you off. That saying “but that’s family” means nothing if a family is toxic and means you no good.”

86.) “Cutting a family out of your world does not make you a bad person. It makes you self-aware. It makes you strong enough to do the right thing.”

87.) “Unhealthy families discourage individual expression. Everyone must confront to the thoughts and actions of the toxic parents.”

88.) “Let’s get out of the habit of telling people, “that’s still your mom, your dad, or your sister.” Toxic is toxic. You are allowed to walk away from people that constantly hurt you.”

89.) “Controllers, abusers, and manipulative people don’t question themselves. They don’t ask themselves if the problem is them… They always say the problem is someone else.”

90.) “Sometimes, it’s necessary to temporarily distance yourself physically from toxic family members for the sake of your well-being if they prove to be too toxic to be around them.”

91.) “Sick of the excuses “they’re still your mom/ dad/ sister/ brother/ son/ daughter/ friend… etc”. No, toxic is toxic. You have the right to cut anyone off that’s unhealthy for you.”

92.) “Sometimes you have to accept the fact that some people can’t handle you doing well, having the peace they don’t or knowing how to receive kindness. Let them go.

93.) “Family is where you’re meant to be most free. Don’t let blood chain you down.”


94.) “I don’t wish I was born in a different family; I wish I was born in a real family.”

95.) “How to tell if someone is not good for you? You being yourself feels like a betrayal.”

96.) “Giving birth doesn’t make you a parent, me choosing to call you Mom (or Dad) does.”

97.) “Saying “No” to family doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you an honest person.”

98.) “These people were meant to raise me, instead, I’ve had to raise them right out of my life.”

99.) “It’s not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.” – Jonathan Schiller

100.) “Sometimes you need to give up on people, not because you don’t care, but because they don’t.”

101.) “Seeing unhealthy patterns in your family and deciding that those patterns end with you and will not be passed down to future generations, is an extremely brave and powerful decision.”

102.) “You are allowed to terminate your relationship with toxic family members. ND You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you. You are allowed to be angry and selfish and unforgiving and you don’t owe anyone an explanation for taking care of you.”

103.) “One of the saddest things in life is knowing that the only way your family will truly come to appreciate you, is if you remove them from your life. Equally sad is knowing that the very moment you let them back in, the same cycle will once again begin.”

105.) “I hate it when people say, “they’re still your family”. Just because someone is your family doesn’t mean you have to keep them in your life if they’re toxic. Blood means nothing sometimes. Don’t let people guilt you into being in contact with someone who isn’t good for your mental health.”

106.) “My father once said, ‘If you’re in the desert and you’re dying of thirst, are you going to drink a glass of blood or are you going to drink a glass of water?’ I think what he was trying to say, interesting coming from my blood father, is sometimes there are people in your family that can be toxic”

107.) “One of the hallmarks of a dysfunctional family is lack of empathy. Parents do not show unconditional love, instead of becoming judgmental. Rather than attempting to understand a child’s feelings and point of view, a dysfunctional parent might rely on anger or derision, making the child feel guilty or demeaned.” – Tricia Hussung

108.) “Family does not mean keeping secrets, walking on eggshells, lying about who I am to keep the peace, pretending others are healthy when they are not, tiptoeing around the truth, attending holidays that derail my healing process, defending poor choices, engaging in toxic behavior, remaining loyal to old patterns that no longer align with my growth, assuming caretaking responsibilities that are not mine to carry.”

Final Words

Living with toxic family members can hinder one’s growth in life, and leading normal life can seem to be an impossible task. But, emotional well-being should be your top priority. We hope you felt a sense of relief after reading these toxic family quotes. Also, we encourage you to seek help from a professional counselor and don’t suffer in silence.

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